Got Quads?

If you are a perfect parent you can stop reading this. If not, then hear me out. Regardless of your circumstances it’s in your best interest to find some type of support group. Whether you’re a parent of multiples, parent of a special needs child or simply a parent, find a group of people to whom you can relate.

As a mom of quadruplets it’s not always easy for me to relate to moms of “singletons.” It’s not that I feel superior to them or don’t sympathize with them, it’s just that we face different challenges. A mom of one can’t give me advice on how to get four toddlers transitioned to “big girl” beds and I can’t help a “singleton” mom pick out the best stroller for her needs because I’ve never had a one-seater. 

For me, Mothers of SuperTwins (MOST) has been wonderful. I found this group online shortly after giving birth to my daughters. I’ve never met any of the members but I feel like I know them. These are moms of triplets and more who are able to pick me up when I’m feeling down and offer suggestions based on things they’ve tried and simply say “you’re doing a good job.”

My local moms of multiples group has been great, too. Once a month there are membership dinners. I can’t tell you how nice it is to get out with other moms who understand what a big deal it is to be out of the house sans kids. 

It doesn’t have to be a “support group” per se. There are various “mom” groups that are basically play dates or mothers’ outings. My point is this: find other parents with whom you connect. We all need support in our lives. We all need people to smile knowingly when we tell them our latest parenting “disaster.” We all need to know that we’re not alone and that we’re doing our best.

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